“My father called all 150 people—to tell them the wedding is off. I’m completely humiliated.”
“What’s the hardest part?” I ask.
“I don’t know if I made the right decision. Matt is wonderful--intelligent, kind, funny and honest. I love him. But, something is wrong,” she laments.
“What do you think it is?”
“His relationship with his family. They are overly-involved in everything. When he proposed, his cousin Maggie picked out my engagement ring! Because she hates me, she told him to buy the cheapest one in the store,” Tara says.
“How does that make you feel?”
“Angry. Disgusted. Like Matt is not a man--but a boy,” she says forlornly. “He doesn’t know who he is. Or, what he wants out of life.”
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“Where do you want to be in a year, Tara?”
“I want to feel confident and self-assured. I want to take the next step in my career. I want to be in a healthy and loving relationship,” Tara replies. “I want to close this chapter and open a new one.”
“Good. I need to tell you something extremely important. Are you ready?” I ask.
“This breakup is the best thing that ever happened to you.”
“Really? It feels like a punch in the face,” Tara says.
“One day, you’ll look back and thank God.”
For the first time, there is a hint of hope in Tara’s voice.
“Yes. I am going to lead you to Higher Ground. You’ll inspire Matt to follow you…or you’ll find someone who meets you at a new level of excellence,” I smile. “Either way, you will win.”
“You give me hope. You’re my angel,” Tara replies.
“You’re never settling ever again,” I answer. “When our work is finished, you’ll have your pick of the world’s best men.”
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1. What is the difference between a man and a boy?
2. What is troubling about Matt’s relationship with his family?
3. What does it mean to travel to Higher Ground?