#3. Faith Over Fear.

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"Dear Monica,

I am 36 years old. All my friends are married. Here I am...starting over.

I have not been sleeping or eating. I am scared. I miss Matt terribly." 

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It's been a few days since our second session. Tara is terrified to leave her fiancé, Matt. Her reaction is 100% normal.

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"My own father asked if I’m being 'too picky.' He said that I'm getting old and I may end up alone.

In my heart, I do not think Matt is 'The One.' He shows very little concern for my feelings.

Whenever I try to talk to him about my fears, he brushes me off. He says I'm 'overly emotional.' Or, 'Why can’t you just be happy?'

I am nervous about working with you.

What happens if I keep growing and evolving— and there is no one to meet me at this level? Frankly, I don’t see a lot of men who are interested in psychological and spiritual growth.

Much love, Tara"

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Through my business, School of Love NYC (www.schooloflovenyc.com), I work with women and men from around the globe.

No matter if a client is from Spain, South Africa or Australia, she worries about stepping into the unknown after the end of a relationship.

But, there are only two options: faith or fear. 

Fear doesn’t mean that you're is headed on the wrong path; it’s simply another emotion to lean into and transcend. I teach clients to train their minds towards faith.

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I respond to Tara:

"Dear Tara,

Please tape the following affirmation to your bathroom mirror:

All will be well.

Say this affirmation throughout the day. It should become your default setting. 

Meditate or pray in the morning. As little as five minutes a day will have a profound effect on you. As you quiet your mind—and learn to listen to your heart—you will know the right steps to take.

No one—not your friends, not your father, not me—knows what is best for you. Only you know what step to take.

I know you’re afraid.

Train your mind towards abundance. Believe that everything is happening for the best. When you falter, return to that quiet place. Your journey is unfolding perfectly.

Warmest, Monica”

Breakup? Job loss? Illness? Financial distress?

Let FAITH be the North Star that leads the way.

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  1. Why is an attitude of faith so important?

  2. Will your heart always know the way?

  3. Tara feels that Matt is not interested in meeting her needs. Is this dangerous? Or typical within a relationship?

Monica Parikh